Forget "fake it til ya make it". Instead, let actions decide your emotions.

 

It's Coach Josh here, Training For Warriors Portland, talking about the concept of acting "as if."

You might have heard this before: some people call it, "Fake it 'til you make it".

I kind of like the way that sounds, right? It might sound like "If I wanna feel good, I'll act like I feel good." However, I think it might be a little bit superficial. I think that might not be enough to actually move forward and to make yourself feel and behave differently.

Instead, I suggest: don't let your emotions guide your actions, let your actions guide your emotions. You don't need to act happy when you deadlift. You could just deadlift, and successfully deadlifting will make you a little bit happier. Successfully getting up on time ( e.g. to get to the gym) will make you a little bit more confident, give you a little bit more self-respect, earn a little bit more trust in yourself. And those actions actually change your emotions. You don't need to act happy about it, but the fact that you're doing it will change your physiology.

Putting your arms in the air in the victory sign, getting a high five from your buddy, getting a great breakfast, getting a good night's sleep, all these things will make you feel different. 

Let your actions change the way that you feel so that you're creating the happiness in your life through your behavior. Rather than relying on your emotions or what your brain chemistry is that morning when you wake up, deciding what you do with your day and then how you behave. Let your actions guide your emotions, don't act "as if."

Use the power of small wins, taking action to gain momentum to change the way that you feel.

It's a subtle shift, but I believe it's an important one because if you focus on your activities, the feelings will come. You'll feel better and proud when you do things that you wanna do, that you do things that you've been putting off, that you do things that are important to you, even if you don't feel like doing them.

So harness the power of small wins. Let your actions guide your emotions. And pretty soon, you'll be bringing out the warrior within.